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How do I motivate my man?

Here’s the thing, if I have nothing good to blog about, I’m not going to blog. That’s not saying I think that I usually blog about interesting things, but I like to think I have something to say when I blog.

If you are bored, be assured I am working on a very long blog entry which I will post early next month. If saying that means you’ll only come back early next month to check…then so be it!

Rudi is really frustrated at work. His boss isn’t nice to work for. He gets shouted and sworn at nearly daily, gets asked to work late often and doesn’t get paid overtime. He is at a disadvantage though. He works for a small company that doesn’t necessarily play by the rules. He didn’t finish high school (even though I tried to encourage him repeatedly) and he is an able bodied white male which puts him last on the list to be employed in South Africa (of course taking into account the fact that he doesn’t have any qualifications). So he is really stuck. He has spoken of getting his code 14 drivers license so he could perhaps drive trucks, but he keeps putting off making the appointment. When I bring it up or try to encourage him he automatically switches to the defensive and inevitably we get into a fight. I just don’t know how to approach it and seem like I am encouraging him rather than ‘talking down’ to him (which I honestly try not to do!) I understand it is a sensitive topic for a man, but it’s difficult to be supportive when I don’t see him making any effort to do something to get out of the situation he is in. I suppose I would have felt despondant and demotivated if I were him. Perhaps I wouldn’t have had the courage to finish school either. I really wish his parents would have been more strict and forced him to finish school at the very least.

Anyway. Enough of that. Stay tuned for that post next month. I promise you’re not going to want to miss it!