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Looking back and reconnecting

I was reading back to my blog posts of a year ago. All I had on my mind then was that Babyice was coming…and wondering how on earth I was going to bring him into this world. I was filled with anticipation and fear. I remember telling myself at that point that the actual birth of Babyice would most likely only last for one day. Surely I could make it through one “bad/painful” day? Looking back now…I had such an amazing birth experience. I consider myself very lucky, knowing the other side of the coin all too well.

Babyice is doing so well, just yesterday Leebeesa came to babysit him for us and she put him in front of his walker and he scooted off with it! He walked! He is balancing for longer and longer on his own now, but still falls on his bum. It’s so cute! This heat wave we’re having in Cape Town is messing with his appetite and sleep though, so I’m hoping it will cool down soon.

It was my grandmother’s 70th birthday yesterday. She took us all out to dinner at the Spur. We reserved a table and when we got there they had two bottles of complimentary chilled white wine on the table. While that was very cool, the actual restaurant was not. It was hot as hell’s kitchen yesterday! I ended up taking off layers of clothes to try and cool off (not too many though ;)). I bought my grandmother a rose bush called “Blue Moon” and a beautiful glazed pot. The nursery potted the rose bush for me and I bought a small frog statue to sit underneath the bush. My grandmother has green fingers and loves flowers. I thought giving her a living gift would be lovely. Something she could nurture and care for now that my grandfather isn’t around anymore.

Picture source: http://www.rose-gardening-made-easy.com/blue-moon-rose.html
Blue Moon Rose

Tomorrow I will be going for a braai with family I haven’t seen in almost 20 years. I tracked my biological father’s brother down on Facebook. I had looked for my father before, but had no luck finding him. I had a good relationship with his mother and remember going there for holidays when I was very young. It used to be easy to find her as she was always listed in the phone book, but my attempts reaching her also failed. I was very excited when I found my uncle! To my surprise they had moved to Cape Town since I last saw them. I immediately contacted him and he was happy to hear from me. He gave me my grandmother’s number and I called her up. She was SO surprised! We’ve been trying to arrange a get together since last year, but with the festive season and holiday madness tomorrow was the first date that suited everyone.

I’m a little nervous. I really haven’t seen them in a very long time. I just hope that I live up to their expectations, if you know what I mean? I don’t think there’s any reason for them to dislike me now or to be disappointed at how I turned out. I hope they are proud of me. I just *know* they’ll love Babyice 🙂 I asked them how my father is (he still resides in Bloemfontein) and it seems that they have not kept in regular contact with him. They weren’t really able to tell me how he is, but my grandmother did say that he had been through a really tough time (we all have, I suppose). I asked if My Evil Mother should come along as she probed me about it after finding out we’d reconnected, but my uncle thought it best that the initial meeting be without her as he remembered that there were ‘issues’ between her and that side of the family. Honestly, I’m not surprised.

My father and I never really had a close bond. My parents divorced when I was two years old and I only ever saw glimpses of him when I was staying with his mother. I do, however, have very fond memories of my grandmother and cannot wait to see her! I’ll blog all about it 🙂